Most important among the customs thatused to be prevalent in Kerala are Marumakkathayam, the system of inheritance through the female line in the family, and the joint family system. Through legislation and the influence of changing life styles, both these practices are now dying out.

LIFE TRANSITIONS
While modern life may have impacted on many have impacted on many traditional practices, most malayalis observe the significant stages of life with long-honored customs.

Birth
The arrival of a child in Kerala is an occasion for much celebration. About 28 days after the birth of a Hindu child the namakaranam or naming ceremony is celebrated where child is positioned on the father's lap. He whispers the child's name into the right ear.

At six months the child is taken to the temple for the chorunu ceremony. Before a statue of Ganesh, the child receives solid food for the first time. Each family member takes turn in feeding rice and curry to the child. Maybe parents visit the Sri Krishna Temple at Guruvayur for this ceremony, since the aspect of Krishna here is in the form of a small child enjoying the delights of in candy, especially sweet foods.

The next important ceremony occurs between the child's third and fifth birthday. Usually occurring at the temple of Sarasvati, the goddess of speech and learning, the child is inducted into the letters with the ceremony of vidyarambham, Seated before the Ganesh stature, the child's finger is placed in rice and, after a written salutation to the deity, the child's finger is carefully guided through the rice as it traces out each letter of the alphabet. A popular place for such ceremonies if Tirur (in northern Malappuram district) the birthplace of Tunchat Ezhuthachan, the acclaimed 'Father of Malayalam'

Another important ceremony is that of head shaving, and some parents travel to the famous Vishnu temple in Tirupathi for this ritual. In a gesture of submissio9n to the deity, the child's head is shaved after which the family make puja ( an act of worship ) to the deity. Muslim families celebrate the birth of a child with the call to prayer, which is repeated gently into the baby's ear.

Christian celebrate the birth of a child with the christening or baptism, Reminiscent of the bathing of john the Baptist, blessed water, symbolic of purification, is poured over the forehead of the child. The ritual has two purposes, to cleanse the child symbolically so it may be included in the church community and to give the child a name, usually identifies with Christianity, such as the name of a Christian saint.

Traditionally, the new mother has 90 days rest after a birth during which she received considerable support of relatives and was treated with herbal baths and massage.

Death
As with other life transitions in group with its own particular rituals.
 
For Hindus, death is a time of transition and detachment form physical and earthly realms The rituals surrounding death are based on this belief and may last 15 days. Cremation, the chosen method for disposal of the body, is founded on the premise that burning the body is the quickest way to release the spirit from its physical state and form any remaining links to its life on earth. On death the body is washed and anointed with sandal paste and blessed ashes. It is then dressed and placed on a base of leaves. The body of a saint is placed in a meditation position. With the initial preparations completed the body is taken to the cremation ground. The eldest son lights the pyre, and circumambulates it three times. On the fifth day after cremation, sanchayanam takes place, where relatives return to collect any remains form the pyre. These are placed in a pot and positioned in the relatives' garden.

For Christians the time before death is a time for reconciliation with relatives and friends as well as their God. With the person facing east, the priest anoints each of the senses with oil. Prayers are recited giving thanks and requesting forgiveness for the person's life and requesting a contented life after death. The body is then buried and the mourners return with the priest to the home where vegetarian food is eaten.
  
On the death of a Muslim the body is dressed in fresh white clothes and is sprinkled with rose-water . the Mullah (religious leader or teacher) visits the home to recite the Holy Quran (Koran). The body is placed facing Mecca and following the burial the mullahs usually continue to recite the Our'an at the grave and within the mosque. In the days following the funeral it is customary for friends and relatives to donate to charity.

Marriage
Marriage is important socially, emotionally and economically. Parents often go to great lengths to procure a suitable partner for a son or daughter. Desirable attributes in the potential partner include a good job, a good position in society, upstanding character and reasonable looks. Discreet in queries are made within the community and sometimes the family deity is consulted. 

For the Hindu marriage jatakam koda, the exchange of horoscopes, takes place to determine the compatibility of the couple. Astrologers ordain the auspicious time for the marriage. Most marriages take place in a temple or the kalyanamandapam, marriages hall. Of all the Hindu groups , it is probably the Brahmins who have the most intricate ceremonies, involving not only the tali-tying but also an exchange of gifts and ritualistic circling of ire by the bride and groom, Other Hindu ceremonies are usually of a less formal nature. The bridegroom is presented with ashtamangalyam, eight items of good fortune that include rice, coconut flowers, a lamp, and cloth-reminiscent of the days when men indicated their desire for marriage by placing cloth on a woman.
 
The Muslim marriage begins with the nikah, a ceremony involving the members of the family. With hands joined the father-of-the-bride and the groom listen to the reading of the marriage speech and the contract. When the groom agrees, the amount that he will pay is publicly announced and agreed to by both members of the family.

Christian marriage are performed in a church where the priest outlines the importance of the marital relationship, particularly in respect of children. Relatives and friends witness the bride and groom pronouncing their marital vows, after which the priest proclaims that the marriage may never be terminated, except through death. The pries t and guests pray for the couple's future and often a mass is celebrated.